Don't be Serious, be sincere...

After a gap of months, decided to write. Not because of any particular reason, just felt like writing something. When we were in school, we were told to be serious to get into a good college. When we were in college, we were told to be serious again to get a good job. When were got the job, we were again told to be serious in our relationship to win over a girl for life. And the story goes on... until we die.

Someone said - don't take life seriously, you won't get out of it alive. Then who cares about what would happen in the future. Why can't we be sincere to enjoy the moment we are in, the moment we are experiencing, be it happiness or pain? Being sincere isn't to difficult if one realizes the impact it has on one and every one involved

The toughest aspect of our life is that it's not a spoon-marble race, where the marble can be picked even if it falls down to continue the race and finish it. Life is about ensuring that neither our loved ones fall nor we fall. Often we tend to sacrifice our happiness, be serious about life and let the ball drop. This can be good, but this can be a disaster we well. Unless you know there is someone to back things up, honestly it will be difficult to complete the race - the race we are in against time before it catches up for good.

Expecting change

Often people say, change is consistent, very true ! However, the fun is change isn't always predictable specially when it involves human souls. We undergo various changes in our lives knowingly and unknowingly. Sometimes, we believe in the change, sometimes we become a part of the change. For some of us, we bring about a change.

Life gets tough when we expect a change. Expectations are there within every individual and hence, all of us are expecting something or the other to change. Some are expecting change that are professional, some others are expecting change that is personal. There are even those, who don't wish things to changes as they are comfortable and enjoying the way they are now. However, change is imminent, it sometimes changes for the better and sometimes for the worse.

How do we deal with this change? Should we live in fear of a change? Should we hold our other actions in anticipation of a change? Should we just let change happen to us without making an effort to stop or support it? We often come across such questions. Most people are of the theory, wait and watch. Some people believe God will help them and some even are superstitious to changes.

The most practical way is to reduce, we can't get rid of, the expectation of change. With every moment, comes a new one, we choose to make the best of it or worse of it. We should live the present moment to the fullest and not worry about changes. There is something we can do even when we are in the worst of situations. Life teaches us that we are traversing a circular path and we come back to where we started from. Life is a full circle, so if you are having your share of pain, you will definitely have your share of happiness. However, choosing to be happy or sad that is reacting to a situation is completely on us. We can't blame anyone, but ourselves as we can't pat anyone but ourselves to be sad or happy respectively.

So, welcome the change, adopt to it, live life king-size. Someone wise said that don't count the hours when you are happy or sad, make every hour of your life count in living it, no point brooding or worrying about the forthcoming change.

If you close your eyes, you never see the light...

Life is a strange mix of light and darkness and often when we are in darkness we tend to close our eyes when we should ideally keep it open to see the possible light around. There are times when you become a mere spectator to the events happening around you and find it difficult to react to the situation. Even if you do the closed eyes will barely see anything or any light you have on offer.

When the eyes are closed, it doesn't need to see the light nor is it worthy of seeing the light. It's tough to conclude which one is true but an eye which is looking for light will look for it regardless. Life is reflection of what we expect it to be, it isn't very different from what it really is. May be few events change time and frequency of occurrence. So when we have to see the light, we need to decide within ourselves if we want to do the same or not. If we do, we can't see the light with eyes closed, we need to open it wide to catch the glimpse to start with, so that we are ready by the time we actually see it.

When the darkness is too thick, light isn't far away, but to see the light, we gotta open our eyes, our mind and our perception to see the light within ourselves and around us.

End of a chapter is not necessarily the beginning of another...

Life is a collection of chapters. We constantly, live through those chapters and with time and situations, chapters begin and close. Chapters are like episodes which teaches us about life, about ourselves and about those who are also involved in the same chapter. Often we find it difficult to close the chapter, because we tend to live in it, but what we don't understand that change is only what is consistent. If the chapter tends to close, it's worth to let it close.

Said that, end of a chapter doesn't necessarily begins the next one. It's wise to take some time off to realize what's life taught us in that chapter. It's difficult often to accept & live in the phase, where you have been resisting to close a chapter or you have closed it but still in phase of denial. The key is to move out of that phase and accept things the way they are, not what we always want it to be. If a chapter is inclined to close, it was meant to be so. Either we didn't deserve to continue the chapter but mostly, it's the chapter which had to close, so let it close, because only then you can open up a new chapter. In most case, we never revert back to the closed chapters, but sometimes they come back to us, we should just handle them at face value and possibly as a new chapter, without any trail back to the old chapter.

Often we think that a new chapter will replace the old one, but that never happens. A new chapter is a new beginning and we shouldn't relate it to the old chapters since the old chapter is closed and hence shouldn't be a part of the new chapter. We should let the old chapter be closed, pick up lessons from it and use it to manage the new forthcoming chapters better. That's life, and that's how we should bring about or welcome the new chapter of our life...

Handling soul relationships..

Often this comes across my mind as why some relationships are connections you can't just get out of your mind. Someone told me when souls meet, it's not possible to separate them no matter how much the body or the mind within it tries by staying parted and far from each other. Going by my own experience, I can't deny this, but then I am just an individual, hence can't really generalize for the rest of the world.

The crux is the mere fact that how much our soul accepts the other person and that's where the difference is. If it's just a fling, the soul doesn't get involved but when you build your dreams around a person, understand there is a connection of the soul. If one of the soul is sad, the other won't be happy, that's how closely its connected and vice verse. Sometimes the world, the people around us kind of enforces us to move away, part ways, but our souls don't understand that, they are beyond the reasons and hence they just stick to their instincts.

Now the problem is how to deal with such a situation. Easy, not by miles. Hard, by all means. However, there is no point in living a life where you keep mourning, instead live life to the fullest. Have a goal and follow it with all your heart. Sometimes, its better not to chase people but let people catch up as you keep moving focused on your goal. Life is like that, live it, time doesn't come back, it just goes away second by second and we loose time, this beautiful life. Not worth it.

Being silent doesn't mean I have nothing to say...

Have been silent for a while, its been long, but that doesn't really mean I have nothing to say, but feel if i say something there isn't anyone who will listen to it. Its like shouting in the middle of a crowd of intoxicated people, where no matter how much you shout, no one will listen or care.

Life is sometimes smooth, but in no time it becomes tough, very tough. People often don't imagine or care to think about the tough times when the going gets smooth. When you are in a roller coaster, you can't think of anything but the end of it and when it ends, you wish that the ride shouldn't have ended.

Our life is like that, extremely unpredictable, uncertain and you never know what's gonna happen the next moment. We often plan big, think big, but then life smiles at us from behind and think how foolish we are to make castles in the air.

So isn't it better to be silent and watch the time pass by, watch the sun rise, set and rise again... the water to flow by... there is no point in saying anything when the other person isn't there to hear it. So it's better to be silent and just let time speak for itself, but then it doesn't mean I have nothing to say...

Over the last few days, some questions came to the forefront, answers to which are difficult to find, because it depends on the perspective of individuals themselves and hence not something we can generalize. Still, guess it's possible to bring out the possibilities...

Why is it so difficult to stand up for what you believe in?


Honestly, your true character shows when you stand up for what you believe in, not for what you are made to believe in. This is primarily because every individual has a different way of perceiving things and situations, but every one does have their own beliefs and convictions. Hence, they should focus on following them, because unless you do that, all your life you will keep on justifying your decision to yourself and the same will make neither happy. You got to deal with the situation in line with what you believe in, which may be tough, challenging, but since your heart is with it, you will sail through, despite all the obstacles that might come your way.

How much should we consider for our-self and for those who get affected by our decision?


This is possibly the most tough question to answer since we often fail to balance our own aspirations and others around us. The key is to find that balance and not just be biased one way or the other. Its difficult, but we can get close to doing it a justice once we set our mind to do that. It will give us a lot to justify either way, else we always live with a question in mind. Is it worth it?