Spacing in relationship...

Space plays a vital role in maintaining and enriching a relationship. We all know that but sometimes we forget in our daily grind. When you see that you have run out of things to talk, there is silence when you should be talking, then either the relationship is shaken or it's going to be shaken. Since, interaction is smooth and fluid when the relationship is in good shape.

Relationships needs suspense, surprise, excitement to keep that divine spark dazzle. If there is no spacing between the individuals it becomes monotonous and routine. That's something which shouldn't creep into a relationship. If it does, it needs to be eliminated at the earliest, else in no time, the relationship will be destroyed. What's needed is offering space and just not expect the other person to offer space. Every individual grows, flourishes and blooms when there is space around. The growth is restricted, if in every aspect of life, the relationship plays a role.

So the choice to be made is to how to space the relationship to ensure it to grow well and enjoy the growth, instead of letting it suffocate and reel under lack of space. Of course, short distance, ensuring space make hearts desire more and make them fonder. The balance of how much the spacing should be varies with the relationships and the individuals in the same.

Do we really know what we want?

Most people don't even know what they really want. This is the most important aspect in today's lives. Most of the time they want things what others have and what they also like to have. Sometimes, they want things what their loved ones want them to do, which isn't a wrong thing to do, but when the situation is driven by the fact that we do things against our heart just to fulfill dreams of someone we love then we end up hurting our souls in the long run. This is something we don't realize and live in the illusion that we are doing something for our loved ones.

Now the question is how do we address such a situation. It isn't wise to just ignore our loved ones wishes and walk over their dreams. At the same time, it isn't wise to just trample our dreams and wishes to satisfy our loved ones because it won't help in the long run since it injures our soul. We will feel that we have sacrificed our love for their wishes, so somewhere it hurts our sentiments and feelings for them. Do we really desire that? We want them to be happy, not sacrifice our dreams to strain the relationship between us and them.

So what do we do? We look and try to focus on what exactly would everyone finally want. The final goal is important, the path can be different, difficult and even can cause pain to us and people around us, but if we believe that its the right thing to do. There needs to be conviction in whatever we do. We need to believe in whatever we do, not anything just because to satisfy someone close to us. We need to do things first for ourselves and whatever we do for someone else, we need to believe in the same, else it becomes superficial and at some point boomerangs into pain and discomfort.